Mediation Advice From Our Spanish Fork Divorce Attorneys
The road that leads to a decision to divorce can be difficult and complex. Once you have decided though, you should get a detailed plan together to help you transition to the next chapter in your life.
Mediation can help.
The purpose of mediation is to help reach an agreement that works for both sides. Without mediation, you could end up spending a lot of money and time that could have been saved by mediation in the first place.
Here are five pieces of advice from our Spanish Fork Divorce Attorneys to help you and your spouse prepare for mediation.
1. Agree to mediation. Agreeing to mediation does not mean that you and your spouse have to be buddy-buddy. Whether you do it in person, via texting, email or over the phone, you and your spouse need to go over the pros and cons of mediation. In order for it to work effectively, both spouse have to want to be there.
2. Get organized and informed. The mediator won’t be able to help you unless you know of everything you have. Make lists of all of your assets and possessions, regardless of whether the item is thought to be yours or your spouses.
3. Set goals. Once you know what you have, you need to decide what you want to do with it. This process can be tough, because you have to decide what you want, and what you can live without. Before you negotiate, you should make a list of terms - things you want, things you don’t want, and things you will not walk away without.
4. Put your kids first. One thing you need to make clear during this time is that even though you will no longer be married, you will still continue to be parents to you children. Most family-mediators will help you build conflict resolution skills so that post-mediation, you can co-parent effectively.